Let's Talk College Essays

The two of us are both rising seniors, and we are greatly aware of the frenzy that is college essays. Anytime I try to talk to someone these days I am bombarded with “what’s your major” or “how many essays have you done” or “what scholarships are you applying to” or “did you get a counselor yet” or “which UC essay prompts are you doing.” The last thing I need is to add peer pressure to my constant stress about college applications. I mean I already hear the concerns from my parents, my sibling, and my counselor.

Let’s make the conversation less toxic. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to know how other people are doing in terms of college ready-ness. Instead of starting the conversation with a million invasive questions, start by asking, “Is it ok if I ask you some questions about college applications?” or “I’m unsure if I’m on the right track, is it cool if I ask you some questions?” Never put down anyone for their place in the college process. Everyone works at a different pace. Don’t assume that person is lazy or procrastinating and don’t flaunt your progress. If someone just told you that they are still deciding colleges, don’t hit them with the “Oh I finished that months ago and now I’m working on my fifthteenth essay” crap. Instead give them support and encouragement. This time is stressful for a lot of people. From my own experience, I know how easy it is to spiral into a tunnel of self-doubt. Us seniors need to be careful with each other and supportive.

As mentioned previously, we are rising seniors which means that we too are new to the college application process. While we don’t have much experience, we do know a few tricks for avoiding unwanted stress. Before starting any college research or essays, understand your worth. Go into this with a mindset that is not only positive but also encouraging. This is important because during college research it is easy to start comparing your stats, extracurriculars, and academic history to that of others. Facing that with a negative attitude about yourself will only cause more stress and self-doubt. A way to do this is to write about yourself. Make a list of your accomplishments and everyday things can also count as accomplishments. Getting up before 10 am is an accomplishment for me and working out five days in a row is also an accomplishment in my book. Another strategy is to listen to hype music while doing your research. It may seem silly, but when I’m listening to Megan Thee Stallion I don’t question my worth as much.

Another way to relieve stress during the college application process includes setting the proper ambiance. Make sure that your writing space is clutter-free and has lots of light. If you are someone who thinks better with noise, then play white noise or lo-fi music. Make sure to write during a part of the day when you are most productive. For me, that is between 9 am to 12 am not 9 pm and 12 pm. Take breaks and pace yourself. You all still have time and you deserve to enjoy your summer.

If you have any tips you would like to share with us, please submit them in the “ask us” page. We will repost your message on the blog in our advice column. Have a great rest of your week!